Feeling Attractive: Necessity; Not Luxury
Dressing for YOU in 2021
You used to get dressed to go places,… to see people. Now, not so much. So you get up in the morning and throw on the sweatpants you wore last night. Maybe you put on a nice top for an afternoon Zoom call, but you know you’re cheating.
No one at work can see that you’re cheating. Only you know it. And you do, indeed, know it. You know that if the camera flipped, or you shot up out of your seat to respond to one of your kids’ who just cried out, “Mo-ommmmm!” that your grungy sweat pants will be visible and give you away.
Because you know it, subconsciously, there’s a part of you that’s holding back, even if ever so subtly. You know you’d be embarrassed by the visual your newest client would get, so you hold yourself a little differently. You might be a bit less expressive; a bit more inhibited; or maybe a lot of both.
Here are tips for getting out of Zoom-inspired “mullet dressing,” or any other less-than-attractive pandemic style habits you may have fallen into in 2020. Pick your best level to start, and give yourself permission to feel beautiful again.
Start small. If you’ve been spending days on end in your fuzzy bathrobe or pandemic-haunted joggers, make a change. Little things that move you out of lockdown-autopilot allow your psyche to begin to feel a sense of normalcy. Choose one a day to gradually ease into new routines, or challenge yourself to all at once. It’s your look.
- Consider color coordinating your socks to your hoodie. (We’re starting small, here, but making an effort.)
- Wear a pair of special earrings — those that always earned you compliments or have sentimental value. Let them give you a subtle pick-me-up when you tuck your hair behind your ear and are reminded of their presence.
- Wear a pretty/sexy bra beneath what ever clothes you’re wearing.
You’ve been getting dressed in real clothes, but they’re the same 3 outfits all week because, well, you can. But as they say, “just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” Stave off boredom and give yourself the variety you knew pre-pandemic.
- Give your hair a good styling — just as you would if you were going out to meet a friend for lunch. Shampoo, blow out, and styling products — the full shebang.
- Add a neck scarf to your everyday Zoom-call shirt or sweater. It’ll add color variety and a more intentional look.
- Avoid overly-bright colors or too-busy prints if you’re on business calls. (You don’t want the colors or patterns to detract from your verbal message.)
- Put on a real outfit for your next Zoom call. (That means no yoga pants with your pretty blouse.)
- Spend some time in your closet in the evening to plan the next day’s outfit with intention. (What do you want to feel, express, or project?) The quiet time alone is a gift to yourself.
- Add a 3rd piece, like a cardigan sweater, to make your outfit a complete, pulled together ensemble. (This is a tidy, twinset-sort-of-cardigan, not the big, bulky “boyfriend” style.)
- Put on a full face of makeup for your day, lipstick and all!
Whatever your starting place, choose action steps that support you in feeling physically attractive. Science shows that a buttoned up appearance boosts our concentration, focus, self esteem, and confidence. Besides, you deserve to feel beautiful!
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Patty Buccellato is an image coach and founder of Refined Images. She brings extensive knowledge and expertise to her work with private clients, as well as with corporate employee groups.
Patty established Refined Images in 1994, and while her studio is based in Rochester Hills, Michigan, you’ll find her serving clients throughout North America in their homes, offices, and… well, currently on Zoom!
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